Countdown to 2009: Sparky and Snarky's Top 10 Dating Resolutions

Judging by some of the questions we get, some of you had a pretty rough time on the dating scene and in the bedroom in 2008. Resolve to make 2009 your year for happy, healthy and fun relationships with our list of top ten dating resolutions.

10. I will not be the last one to text every night when I first start flirting with someone.

9. I will not change my Facebook status to "in a relationship" within the first month of dating someone.

8. I will not get drunk on a first date.

7. I won't keep going out with people after three dates if I'm not that into them, just because I'm bored or don't want to be single.

6. I will wait, patiently, until my partner finishes what s/he has to say, even when I'm mad.

5. If I am single, I will put myself out there—online, on the scene and through friends—and meet new people, because variety is the spice of life.

4. If I am partnered, I will make an effort to keep the relationship interesting by trying new things together—new places for dates, new activities in the bedroom, etc.

3. I will tell my sexual partners what I want in bed, and I will not be embarrassed about my desires, fetishes and comfort level with kink.

2. I will have as much sex as I want, but I will still be careful about my health.

1. I will raise my standards and lower my expectations.

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