Phillyist: Love in the Time of... Napoleon Complexes

AmazonianWife

Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:34:22 -0500

Hmmmm. No instead of asking the question what woman stays there you question the one who left. BEcause the bonds of sisterhood demand that both women stay even if they have plans of escape ,put together a logical way for her to leave , AND SHE STILL SAYS no. but does ensure safe and easy ways to track each other down. Because yes leaving when one is patently uncomfortable is less of a problem than asking someone who is uncomfortable and says so to stay. She wants questionable ass she can have it you did your best.

Katie

Wed, 18 Oct 2006 14:42:09 -0500

Okay, I should have explained how I ended up leaving a bit better. Trust me, it wasn't something I did without thinking or feeling badly about it- I'd been trying to get my friend to leave with me since we had gotten there. I didn't want either of us there, but she wasn't listening to anything I said, and was refusing to leave under any circumstances. I didn't feel safe at all, so, for myself (and after trying everything I could think of to get her to leave with me), I went home. I knew where she was, I knew the building and apartment number she was in (it was corporate housing), and I sat up, nervous as hell (and calling her every other minute), with my phone glued to my side until she told me she was on her way home. Leaving wasn't something I felt good about doing, but keeping myself in a dangerous situation with someone who was refusing to listen to my concerns wasn't something I was okay with either.

anonymous

Wed, 18 Oct 2006 13:31:53 -0500

Forget about any issues with short or Irish men: I want to know what kind of friend leaves her friend at an apartment with men whom she just met--men who have just put a hole in a wall during an argument? WTF?